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Billie Thompson

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Sarah Schulman: Conflict is not abuse (2016) 3 stars

Review of 'Conflict is not abuse' on 'Goodreads'

2 stars

DNF, 25%

I wanted to like this so bad from the premise.

A lot of old person shouts at cloud. She has this whole thing where she thinks its ok to stalk people that don't want to talk to her. There's like an entire chapter on it.

A summary of her arguments:
lack of communication causes conflict
conflict leads to shunning as a first response
Interpersonal shunning, leads to the invocation of the state
Communication will resolve conflict
Abuse is bad, and that we often use the term when there's not a power imbalance
We should treat abuse and conflict diffently
* We have a responsibility to resolve conflicts in family and other social groups.

What get on my nerves is she doesn't really back up that shunning is happening, as a first response, her shunning model isn't one that matches any organisational behaviour research I know of, and infact …